In my newest memoir “Sacred Fire: Memoir of A Marriage” I write about becoming a new mum. How I did not fall in love with the bundle of joy as all the books and movies show! It felt extremely vulnerable to write (I prepared my daughter who was in her 30’s by then that this was in the book). She was so sweet about it and encouraged me to share it because it was my authentic lived experience.
We’ve been sold a lie. And it’s time mamas started to tell the whole truth about parenting. Like you’re doing so beautifully Alex! 🤗
This one got me. I've had so many of these moments. I'm always amazed at how quickly they are to forgive and literally forget. After a meltdown or a fight, they just move on. I always apologize when I've been the one who lost it, and they're so quick to say, "that's ok." I think we could all learn something about how not to hold grudges or let a fight or argument derail our whole day!
Also, my kids are now 5, 8, and 10, and 3 was *by far* the hardest age for all of them, so just hang on and enjoy the snuggles while white knuckling through the rest!
It’s sooo true! Sometimes I feel like I’m forcing the repair when my kids are seriously so unbothered by what just happened… taking notes from them!
And that makes me feel so much better — on the whole 3 being the hardest. My MIL said the same and she has 4 kids. 3 is so fun but so trying. So thank you!!
I love your writing, I feel like I’m sitting at your kitchen counter over coffee while our kids make a mess in the living room. I agree on all fronts! My son is turning 7 this year, and I’m really seeing how my personal commitment to myself and my development is shaping him into an incredible human. All of my raw “messy” is giving him a level of authenticity and the ability to express his emotions and thoughts in a way that is healthy and humbling. He truly believes in world peace and he knows it starts with him. Way to go mama! God bless you and your family!
I so appreciate you sharing how it felt to take this in. And I loveeee this example of how your authenticity is shaping your child’s development and outlook on the world. It’s the nudge I needed to keep trusting this way of mom-ing!
We need more real mamas speaking up like this! 👏👏👏 Loved reading your words and I can very much relate!
I truly think it’s such a gift for kids to see their parents’ full spectrum of feelings vs the white knuckling “everything is fine” that kids can feel is inauthentic. The repair after “mommy’s big feelings” as I call them when I lose my cool is everything imo.
You’re sooo right on the kids feeling it when we’re pretending. And I’m realizing that repair is when I feel most connected to my kids. And it can’t happen without the messy parts!
In my newest memoir “Sacred Fire: Memoir of A Marriage” I write about becoming a new mum. How I did not fall in love with the bundle of joy as all the books and movies show! It felt extremely vulnerable to write (I prepared my daughter who was in her 30’s by then that this was in the book). She was so sweet about it and encouraged me to share it because it was my authentic lived experience.
We’ve been sold a lie. And it’s time mamas started to tell the whole truth about parenting. Like you’re doing so beautifully Alex! 🤗
This one got me. I've had so many of these moments. I'm always amazed at how quickly they are to forgive and literally forget. After a meltdown or a fight, they just move on. I always apologize when I've been the one who lost it, and they're so quick to say, "that's ok." I think we could all learn something about how not to hold grudges or let a fight or argument derail our whole day!
Also, my kids are now 5, 8, and 10, and 3 was *by far* the hardest age for all of them, so just hang on and enjoy the snuggles while white knuckling through the rest!
It’s sooo true! Sometimes I feel like I’m forcing the repair when my kids are seriously so unbothered by what just happened… taking notes from them!
And that makes me feel so much better — on the whole 3 being the hardest. My MIL said the same and she has 4 kids. 3 is so fun but so trying. So thank you!!
Everyone talks about the “terrible twos” which, for mine, weren’t so terrible. Then three hit, and I was completely unprepared. Now I tell everyone!!!
I love your writing, I feel like I’m sitting at your kitchen counter over coffee while our kids make a mess in the living room. I agree on all fronts! My son is turning 7 this year, and I’m really seeing how my personal commitment to myself and my development is shaping him into an incredible human. All of my raw “messy” is giving him a level of authenticity and the ability to express his emotions and thoughts in a way that is healthy and humbling. He truly believes in world peace and he knows it starts with him. Way to go mama! God bless you and your family!
I so appreciate you sharing how it felt to take this in. And I loveeee this example of how your authenticity is shaping your child’s development and outlook on the world. It’s the nudge I needed to keep trusting this way of mom-ing!
love this one!
We need more real mamas speaking up like this! 👏👏👏 Loved reading your words and I can very much relate!
I truly think it’s such a gift for kids to see their parents’ full spectrum of feelings vs the white knuckling “everything is fine” that kids can feel is inauthentic. The repair after “mommy’s big feelings” as I call them when I lose my cool is everything imo.
You’re sooo right on the kids feeling it when we’re pretending. And I’m realizing that repair is when I feel most connected to my kids. And it can’t happen without the messy parts!
Aleeeeeex this had me in tears. Yes yes yes to all of this. Have had exact moment and feeling and revelations with my boy.